The day you start believing you are doing better every day through every tiny effort from your level by being kind to your inner self and going where you want to go or achieve something, is the day you start growing inside, does not matter it is visible or not to others. But after reaching the day you may feel like losing track somewhere again and that is part of the process. I am no exception and consequently for a few days around I was trying not to attack myself rather I was listening to my mind what exactly it was feeling.
Surprisingly what I found was that by visiting social media for a few hours a day on regular basis I was unconsciously judging my activities with people's. To me it was strange ! Because I was always quite aware of that comparing. Well after recognizing this self-harming pattern that day I did not let my mind go far more than that. Let me share with you what I fed my mind through a little but significant example. Take a look at the names of our Instagram highlights or the names of our Facebook photo albums.
Those who love to keep records of their activities can relate much. We named each of the albums in different names, not necessarily they all have to be only those happy moments with friends and family, It can be the records of everyday struggles, like a little journal, even a selfie after finishing a daily task. You might be surprised to know that acquiring coping mechanisms to deal with past traumatic experiences can be one's everyday surviving diary that he/she loves to keep the records that how far they have come. Or maybe someone is silently trying hard to get rid of his/her addiction every day a little for being honest and committed to themselves. Fighting to break the old habit and building the new one like getting up early in the morning is also progress my dear.
It is easy to compare everyday activities and achievements to others on social media and get instantly overwhelmed with disappointment. Even the strongest and most awakened mind can unconsciously compare his/her activities with others.
We need to remind ourselves at this point that Neither each of our life events are the same nor we went through the same past events. Each of us is passing our journey which is different from other people. We are fighting our demons and climbing our mountains every day a little. It is the process that is helping us to reach our different dreams and goals.
Everyone is growing, it just looks different from the surface. Some are brightly visible, some are just not. Growing and succeeding do not mean only getting the highest cGPA or that well-polished job or having a perfect family, it is only you who determine how your growing process and success will look like. No one but you can determine what is important to work on to reach your dreams. If you are struggling to find your dreams what you want to do, work on that. If you are struggling with having healthy boundaries with people, at first work on that.
Only you know where you are right now and where to go.
~ Written by- Tasriha Binte Khaleque
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